By Lynn Hayes
If you are in love with an Aquarian type, you know how important their ideals are to them – but it can be more difficult to connect with them emotionally. The way to an Aquarian heart is through the mind! If your beloved has the Sun or Moon in Aquarius, or Aquarius rising, read on to learn more about what to avoid with your lover, what will turn him or her on, and what their deepest secret.
What Aquarius Needs from a Lover
Aquarians are individualists—they dance to their own drummer and carve their own niche in life, requiring a lover who will permit them freedom to find their own way. They are extremely bright and possess minds that are curious and full of ideas. They’re happiest with a partner who can share their intellectual curiosity and help to expand their world.
How Aquarius Shows Love
Aquarius is a rather unemotional sign—they are reasonable and rational and ultimately concerned with equality and justice. It may be difficult for them to express feelings because everything is channeled through their intellect. They show love through words rather than emotions and can appear detached and remote.
Astrological Types Compatible with Aquarius
Aquarius is most compatible with intellectual types excited by change. Sagittarius, Gemini, Aries—these are all compatible with Aquarius. But humans are drawn to other humans who possess traits that they don’t have, so Aquarius is also likely to be attracted to more emotional types such as Pisces and Libra.
How to Open the Aquarian Heart
This is not a project to be taken on by the insecure. Aquarius teaches the wisdom of a heart that is detached from emotion and ruled instead by reason. The Aquarian heart will not open the way, say, a Cancerian heart will open—with expressions of love and emotion. Aquarians tend to dislike overly emotional displays, which may cause them to retreat and shut down. To open the heart of your Aquarian, create for them a beautiful garden of love that includes lots of exits so that they can escape now and then.
Turn-ons for Aquarius
Aquarius dislikes routines and restrictions of any kind and is turned on by the unconventional. Not kinky, dangerous unconventional, but surprising and new unconventional. New positions, different lighting, unusual places—all of these will wake up the Aquarian libido. Remember Aquarius is guided by the mind in all things, and the mind is their greatest erogenous zone.
Aquarius’s Deepest Love Secret
Aquarius are always surrounded by friends and active in the community where they work hard to make a difference. So why are they so lonely? This is the biggest secret of your Aquarian beloved—the deep loneliness that comes from feeling disconnected emotionally from the people around them. Sometimes they don’t even know what they’re missing, but they know they don’t experience the same kind of emotions that others do, and this can cause a sense of isolation.
Things to Avoid with Your Aquarius Beloved
Aquarians are particularly distressed by dramatic displays of intense emotion. They don’t understand them, and don’t know how to react or what is expected of them. They will also not respond well to demands for commitment or attempts to pin them down to any one particular thing. They are easily overcome with feelings of suffocation and require a great deal of air in the relationship in order to feel happy and healthy.
How to Communicate with Aquarius
Aquarius is one of the best communicators in the zodiac. Their quick minds are always processing new data, and they like nothing more than to share all of the information they’ve gathered with others. They are a fixed sign, so they can be stubborn in their beliefs and opinions but typically don’t like to argue about it. They prefer to keep an open mind and allow room for many viewpoints to coexist.
How to Connect Spiritually with Aquarius
Aquarian spirituality can be very otherworldly. They are often spiritual travelers and light workers, comfortable with channeled beings and ascended spiritual teachers in other realms. Their spirituality is of an idealistic nature where light prevails over darkness. If they attend church, they will want to keep an open mind to explore other possibilities of religious experience.
How to Hold onto an Aquarian Forever
To hold onto your Aquarius love, you must allow them to be free. As Khalil Gibran says, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” Aquarius is happiest in love when there’s a solid foundation of friendship, so be a real friend and not just a lover. Share their world, and share your world with them. Open up your own heart so that they can see through the windows of your soul, and allow them the freedom to come and go as they please. Then you will not only hold onto your Aquarian, but you’ll keep your partner happy and content as well.